On Helping Others

Do you enjoy helping people?  What about strangers?  How far would you go for somebody you just met?  I bet that most people wouldn’t go as far as they once would.  Too many people have been spurned or seen others hurt when trying to help.  People getting robbed when trying to help a stalled vehicle.  Doctors getting sued when making the decision that saved your life, but since it was done without consent too bad.  I was recently at a Sports Clips getting my hair cut (no, not a sports person but they use tea tree shampoo and do scalp massages and send out lots of coupons sooo I go) and this guy came in with his wife and three children.  He has a nice full head of hair that he is obviously proud of and yet he tells the beautician to shave it all off.  She wasn’t sure how to feel about that and didn’t want to be blamed when he didn’t like it, so she inquired as to why he wanted it shaved off.  Turns out his 2 year old daughter was just diagnosed with leukemia and started treatment already so her hair was starting to fall out.  He wanted to go through that with her.  He said he knew it wasn’t any where near what she was having to go through, but that he wanted to do whatever he could to show support for her.  I thought that was pretty damn sweet.  There were quite a few people in there wiping at their eyes.  Obviously all had gotten a hair in them like I did.  It’s amazing the bond you can feel with a complete stranger when it has to do with their children.  That complete devotion to another being.  Knowing that you would do the same for your child.  Wishing that you could do something to help, but not daring to offer for the fear of how hollow it would sound.  I dunno.  I think about helping people a lot.  I thoroughly enjoy helping those when I can.  I have a horrible streak of optimism in people that I couldn’t begin to tell you where it comes from.  I always want to believe that people have good intentions.  That helping them will actually mean something and they wont forget about you five seconds later.  It is tough to do at times though.  It is sad the kind of glares you get just holding the door open for people sometimes.  Or offering to put their cart away for them.  Seeing if they need help carrying something.

So yeah.  That’s about it.  Been doing lots of thinking.  Patrick Rothfuss put up a great blog about resolutions the other day that can be found HERE.  Got me thinking a lot about my time management and hoping that I am doing enough with my son.  I try to fit as much into a day as I can, but you can only do so much for so long and then you are all out of gogo juice.  I think I hit that wall the other day.  I’ve just been exhausted.  There have been many days that I needed to wake up and get to work a little earlier to try and get more done and it just hasn’t happened.  I haven’t gotten hardly any writing done in well over a month.  I have still been doing a bit with writing code or at least learning what I can about it.  I even had an interview yesterday for a programming job.  I don’t fell all that great about how the interview went but we shall see.  If not good, it would be the first interview that I have ever done where I didn’t get the job.  Normally once I get in to talk to somebody I charm their pants right off(even if talking out of my ass, but I didn’t get in there yet was just a phone interview yay bureaucracy).  It would be nice if I got the job, a lot closer to home and a challenge and learning stuff, but you have to be realistic about these things.  There are a lot of people applying and I’m sure most of them have a lot more experience than I do.  That is really how I have been spending my time.  Dividing it up between child, code, wife, video games, and keeping up with TV shows I enjoy(breaking bad, shameless, white collar, justified, some cartoons, big bang theory, and others).  I realize the last bit may not be the most effective use of time, but it can be used to knock out time with the wifey too so double score.

I was clearance shopping at Target the other day since there is a crapload of stuff they want to get rid of.  So I was walking down the massive toy aisle that is all clearanced out and I start to feel a little gurgle down below.  I was the only one in the aisle at the time so I decided to see what the gurgle was all about and let a fart sneak out.  I then promptly vacated the aisle with tears in my eyes.  I hung around the area though out of curiosity.  Along came a line of clearance shopping ladies right down the aisle.  They suffered through the fart to look at the clearance.  The look on their faces was amazing.  That is how I know I will never be as hardcore as a woman looking for a deal.  I would never have stood and suffered through that fart.

When I was leaving I got more of a laugh.  I suppose this may be slightly in bad taste, so there’s your warning.  Either way the cart attendant there has Down Syndrome.  I would have to say he was probably mid-twenties and he was out just doing his thing gathering carts when the Team Lead for the night called out to him that he needed to clock out in five minutes.  The cart attendant was probably about 5’4″ and Grimace-shaped(as tends to be the case) and the Team Lead was a 6′ big african american guy.  So he tells the attendant that he needs to clock out in five minutes.  The attendant gets pouty and says “I don’t wanna!” and starts to go get more carts.  The BBTL instantly turns into daddy mode and yells at the cart attendant just like any father would his kid.  He hollers out to the kid “Brian! You get over here right now!”  The down boy hunkers down and pouts more and waddles over to the guy.  BBTL continues “Brian when I tell you that you got to clock out you do it! You understand me boy?!  I don’t wanna hear any lip out yo mouth, got it?”  The kid just kind of nods his head and walks off to act like he is clocking out and then goes out the front door to get more carts.  Maybe it was just one of those ‘have to be there’ things but the cashier and I were just rolling.


So yeah.  Quite some time without a post and that already brings you up to date from what I can think of off the top of my head.  Oh other than I moved.  That was fun.  Last weekend.  Found out at 5:30 on Friday the 13th that I could switch out to a bigger apartment for not that much more a month with no transfer fee.  The only catch was that I had to move that weekend.  So the son got to spend the night with one of his friends and I got to run back and forth across the street(literally across the street and up a flight of stairs) to get everything moved before Monday because that was the time limit I was given.  That was fun!  Luckily I had a couple friends that volunteered to help.  Without them I doubt it would have gotten done.  Or maybe it would have been done but there would definitely have been some drag marks on some of the furniture ha.


Toodles for now.  Will try not to be so lazy in the near future.

  1. Good post.

    I think the key is doing what makes you happy. I’m sure there is a little give and take with sacrifice, but in the long run watch that extra episode of Big Bang Theory, spend that extra hour with your son, or take that 30 minutes to sit down and do absolutely nothing. In the long run I think you will find it to be the most rewarding.

    I would say nobody would find the humor in BBTL, but this is the internet. If you read this and don’t know, go spend 5 mins on craigslist personal adds.

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